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ColeWayne
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Unread post Mon Jan 08, 2018 7:09 am

I just need to put this somewhere.

I met someone new back in October. We've kept in touch and plan to try dating. We've delayed things some due to some medical stuff on his end he had to straighten out (I don't want to get into that in too much detail here because it's not my stuff to share). But, now that that's been mostly squared away we're back on track. And I'm realizing I'm kind of terrified to get close to somebody. I realized this earlier today and it's just been nagging me. I've dated a few guys and it always ended badly. The most recent one was particularly rough and it took me a long time to get over.

This guy so far is very honest and open, very sweet, very kind. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt or mistrust him. But still, the idea of opening myself up for romance is super scary. I don't want to get hurt. I don't want this guy to be another lesson I have to learn.

That's all. I'm just scared and am trying to push past it. I just had to get this out somewhere. Words of encouragement are appreciated.
"Passion. It lies in all of us. And though unwanted, unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl."

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Ravensfox
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Unread post Sun Jan 14, 2018 2:17 am

There will always be the nervous side, take things slow and just go on a few dates and see how it grows. Don't put yourself in a situation you don't want to be in, you and only you know what makes you happy.


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Unread post Mon Jan 15, 2018 8:31 pm

ColeWayne wrote:
Mon Jan 08, 2018 7:09 am
I just need to put this somewhere.

I met someone new back in October. We've kept in touch and plan to try dating. We've delayed things some due to some medical stuff on his end he had to straighten out (I don't want to get into that in too much detail here because it's not my stuff to share). But, now that that's been mostly squared away we're back on track. And I'm realizing I'm kind of terrified to get close to somebody. I realized this earlier today and it's just been nagging me. I've dated a few guys and it always ended badly. The most recent one was particularly rough and it took me a long time to get over.

This guy so far is very honest and open, very sweet, very kind. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt or mistrust him. But still, the idea of opening myself up for romance is super scary. I don't want to get hurt. I don't want this guy to be another lesson I have to learn.

That's all. I'm just scared and am trying to push past it. I just had to get this out somewhere. Words of encouragement are appreciated.

I agree with everything Ravens has mentioned.. It's ok to take it slowly. You need to build up trust again and that is ok.
:thumbsup: if he feels the same he wont mind that you want to take it slowly
I always think it's good to make it known at the beginning, a talk about what your future plans are, what are his, and whilst mentioning ex's never goes down well, you can still talk to him about it
It's ok to feel this way, it doesn't mean anything other than you have been through so much and you're now stepping out of your comfort zone .. so to speak..... I think taking it slowly, dates first ... it will likely work in your favour. :o)

Good luck

Sam
"Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - A. A. Milne

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